REPORT: 

The event was held on a Sunday morning at 11h00 and advertised by posters and fliers the week before the event distributed in the community by Isaac from the Potch depot.

  • The session was opened by the son of the owner, Tsietsi. It was astounding to see a number of men completely drunk at that time on a Sunday morning and later on two very drunk women. Once again it was initially a challenge to get everyone’s attention given the very social setting. No special seating arrangement was made and people were seated around tables as they normally would be in a tavern setting. 

  • The talk was very well received and again many men expressed a desire for more conversations of this nature. 

  • From the reaction and comments these events have been welcomed and appreciated by the vast majority of tavern patrons.

  • There is something very special and significant about taking this message directly into the “heart of the beast”, where it is most needed.

  • The level of engagement and hunger for this kind of dialogue shown by many of the men in attendance has been very encouraging and demonstrates the lack of deep and authentic conversations amongst men.

  • The flip side of this is witnessing the desperation of so many men – mostly financial.

  • What has come through very clearly is the drivers of abusive behaviour – the need by men to feel strong and circumstances which make them feel the opposite. 

  • The session was opened by the son of the owner, Tsietsi. It was astounding to see a number of men completely drunk at that time on a Sunday morning and later on two very drunk women. Once again it was initially a challenge to get everyone’s attention given the very social setting. No special seating arrangement was made and people were seated around tables as they normally would be in a tavern setting. 

  • The talk was very well received and again many men expressed a desire for more conversations of this nature. 

  • From the reaction and comments these events have been welcomed and appreciated by the vast majority of tavern patrons.

  • There is something very special and significant about taking this message directly into the “heart of the beast”, where it is most needed.

  • The level of engagement and hunger for this kind of dialogue shown by many of the men in attendance has been very encouraging and demonstrates the lack of deep and authentic conversations amongst men.

  • The flip side of this is witnessing the desperation of so many men – mostly financial.

  • What has come through very clearly is the drivers of abusive behaviour – the need by men to feel strong and circumstances which make them feel the opposite. 

How do you sleep at night knowing that you’ve abused a woman? That is a question I’m posing to all
the abusive men out there.

– Participant

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